A Warning To All Men Who Don't Know How To Give Women Orgasms

If you're a man and you've never given a woman an orgasm...well, I have some potentially bad news for you. Get ready...This letter is going to touch on a few sore spots. But by the time you're finished, you should have a whole new outlook on sex...

How many times in the last month has your lover:

(a) Feigned a headache?
(b) Faked an orgasm?
(c) Flat out refused sex?

Not sure? Well, you'd better be!

Men all over the planet are voicing the same fears, the same complaints - fearful that if something doesn't change, their relationships will end...And, most likely, they're right!

When it comes to sex and relationships, this world is FULL of some pretty startling statistics. And, as much as we're loath to admit it, some of these depressing statistics stem from us. Try this one on for size...

An estimated 75% of all men don't know how to (consistently) bring their lovers to orgasm - and that number grows even higher is you're talking about multiple orgasms! And, thanks to that fact, we - the men of the world - are suffering for it! Scary, isn't it?

Thinking about this statistic and how it might impact all of the others...However, if more men could learn the secrets and techniques to make their lover's cum every time, maybe things would be different. We could prevent pain, dissolution of our relationships, cheating and our own unsatisfied desires.

But, if we don't, things will continue getting worse - not only in our own personal relationships, but in relationships all across the globe.

Don't believe me?

Then check out some of the problems we face if a change isn't made...

Problem #1: Faking Orgasms

According to the 2000 Orgasm Survey (yep, there's a survey for that...), 72% of all women surveyed had faked an orgasm at least once in their current or most recent relationship - married or otherwise.

Think about it, that's nearly 3 out of every 4 women. In the United States alone that translates to a whopping 216 million women!!!

Why do they fake it?

Generally, they claim to do it in order to protect our egos and spare us emotional pain and anguish. Unfortunately, those same women are much more prone to start looking for sexual satisfaction elsewhere, completely smashing our hearts in the process.

Life's full of paradoxes, huh?

However, once again, our own reactions could prevent this seemingly inevitable end...Why? Because, according to that same survey, 55% of men say they can tell when she's faking it!

So, why aren't we doing something about it? Is it because we don't know how to bring it up, or we're simply too scared to admit to ourselves (and our partners) that we know what's really going on?

Problem #2: A Dull Sex Life

Nearly 70% of men report that, once they get married, their wives either lose their enthusiasm for sex or simply give up on sex altogether.

But, if they weren't like that before they got married, what changed? Where's the problem?

Look at your relationship closely and carefully, and you should have no trouble finding the answers to that question...Again, their behavior may stem from us...

One of the leading reasons that women lose interest in sex is because, once they get married (or, for that matter, get serious...) sex suddenly becomes just boring or routine.

And we, who can easily get satisfaction out of plain old "vanilla sex" (missionary and doggy style positions) lack either the creativity or the know-how when it comes to adding excitement, variety and female orgasms in the bedroom.

In return, we wind up getting used to hearing things like:

* "I'm too tired..."
* "Not right now, honey..."
* "It's been a long day..."
* "Not tonight, I have a headache..."
* "I just don't feel like it..."

Or, if they don't complain, they go along with it, but only with the attitude of a victim. You can almost hear them saying (if they DON'T wind up saying it out loud), "Hurry up and get it over with..." and then proceed to lie their unresponsive or apparently "not really there."

Definitely less than sexy or satisfying for us...

If these responses are the norm, and not the exception, it can aggravate the risk of our next potential consequence...

Problem #3: Cheating

Of course, failure to bring your lover to orgasm isn't the ONLY reason your girl might cheat on you. But it can lead to quite a few reasons that men and when cheat. And it starts out as a deceptively slow progression from good to bad to worse...

* Because they're bored with their sex lives at home...In the case of a woman, if her lover isn't making her cum, she'll stop viewing "him" (which in all reality, could be you) as a source of sexual satisfaction and fulfillment.
* Cheating can result after extended periods of unrewarding erotic encounters, so that her lack of interest in sex increases while the frequency, intensity and desire decrease.
* Then, as the frequency and responsiveness remain diminished, this can lead us guys to begin looking elsewhere for our own sexual satisfaction.
* Then (or maybe even before then...) your partner may begin looking elsewhere for a man that she thinks can bring her to the fulfillment she wants and needs.

It's a steady progression towards disaster. And here's yet another frightening fact...

According to author and professor Susan Shapiro Barash, 90% of cheating wives who were surveyed responded that when they cheated on their spouses, they felt absolutely NO GUILT about it whatsoever, because they feel fully entitled to the good feelings sex with another, different man can/might/will give them.

In addition to the emotional pain of cheating you can face, there are also the risks of her catching an STD (and passing it along to you) or, her getting pregnant by another man. But, even if your relationship survives the pain of infidelity, if the underlying causes aren't addressed, your problems will persist, or even worse...

Problem #4: Breakup or Divorce

Nationwide, the divorce rate of couples stands right around 50% - but that's just in marriages! If you start looking at young, un-wed couples, the statistics are even worse.

According to John Fetto's article, "Love Stinks - Statistics on Failed Relationships", 59% of the people recently surveyed and between the ages of 18 and 35 had recently experienced a break-up. Older couples were only a bit luckier, at 31%.

What reasons were cited most?

* Growing apart (40% men, 39% women)
* Infidelity (28% men, 30% women)
* Commitment problems (23%, men, 27% women)
* Lack of Passion (23% men, 17% women)
* Abuse (10% men, 25% women)

And, if you really think about it, each of these problems can stem from a failure to sufficiently satisfy your woman in the bedroom. Couples grow apart because they don't have a passionate sex life holding them together. They'll have commitment problems and possibly cheat on each other.

Why?

Women want someone who can sexually satisfy them, and men cheat because their wife has become frigid (she can't an orgasm with him, so why have sex at all?)

So, why aren't more men treating the problem instead of enduring the consequences? That's a very good question...

What Are Men Supposed to Do?

If the guy in the relationship realizes that he's not pleasing his lover, or knows that she's been faking it, we often rationalize it by blaming our failures on issues that we have absolutely no control over. Things like the size of our penises, our appearance, or coming to the conclusion that there's something wrong with her. This is a dangerous mistake!

Because those aren't the real problems, and treating them like they are only makes things worse. And perhaps the worst thing you can do is convince her that the lack of interest in sex lays squarely on her doorstep.

About The Author-- My name Lee Jenkins and I can show you the step-by-step techniques to sexually satisfy women TODAY. Simply head over to http://www.femaleorgasmblackbook.com/thanks.html and get your free report on how to give women orgasms.

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