Both Men and Women Can Be Sexually Satisfied in Their Relationship

Many women rarely experience satisfaction in a sexual relationship. Sexual frustration leads to bitterness and anger, resulting in relationship problems.

Kim Marshall, a trained sex educator and author of The Great Sex Secret says, "What people have been dealing with through the ages for thousands of years is, if they go about sex in a straightforward fashion, the man will be satisfied, the woman will be titillated, perhaps excited, but not satisfied and that is just unfair."

Kim was raised in the typical uptight family environment that rarely, if ever talked about sex. He grew up with all of the misconceptions many of us have about how sex really works, with no real information to help him.

He now shares what he has learned and researched through the years with those who would like to experience thriving, satisfying emotional and sexual relationships. His proactive techniques bring an understanding of sexual gratification for both partners, leading to passionate, long term relationships.

The most powerful method of dealing with the issue of satisfying your partner is communication. Unless a man and a woman are open to each other and ready to overcome the traditional one-sided sex, then the sexual relationship will peter out. A man has to spend the time listening to what will work for his partner and the woman must communicate what she needs or remain unsatisfied and frustrated.

Many women pretend to be enjoying sex rather than explaining to their partner what would please them. They are afraid of hurting his feelings, offending his manhood, or maybe even fearing he will leave. The woman feels she has to give her partner positive feedback about his performance, how amazing it was, and how wonderful he was in bed.

Couples who communicate openly and honestly with one another will break down the barrier that keeps them from saying what is working or what isn't working. For those who don't have a problem talking about sex, come right out and say what you want. It doesn't have to be in bed; it can be on a drive, over dinner, or during some private time together.

Some people just can't bring themselves to openly talk about sex, especially about what might physically gratify them. In this case, use a third party, a book or magazine article that would help both the man and woman see what the other needs. It is a good starting point and many times leads to open communication.

There is more to a healthy sexual relationship than the standard intercourse. Men and women need to reject the preconceived notion that sex is all about the straightforward act. Figure out a new way, a new approach for stimulation. Couples should be sensitive and caring to one another, touching and talking about what they are feeling. Once communication is open, passion will thrive, intimacy will grow, and a commitment to one another will emerge for a loving, long-lasting relationship.

Too often, relationships come to a turning point after two or three years where the passion dissipates. The excuses are many; it could be children, work, school, or stress. Sex becomes a thing of the past and couples are on the road to a sexually unhappy relationship, or even an affair with someone else.

This is when communication is especially important. They need to figure out a technique for bringing one another to a satisfying love-making encounter. It doesn't have to be the same rush of passion they had when they were younger. It needs to be a time of mutual intimacy, closeness and pleasure.

Couples assume sex should be spontaneous or they need to be in the mood. This should not be a factor in your love-making. Set a time to be together, knowing that sex will happen. Taking the time to be intimate with your partner will stimulate you whether you thought you were in the mood or not. This closeness and respect for one another will give you a sexually active and happy relationship for years to come.

Find the technique that works best and settle into a new attitude and approach toward sex. There is no right or wrong way, just the way that brings mutual gratification, intimacy and love. Know that a healthy sexual relationship is there for you to enjoy. You're never too old for the passion of physical or emotional love.

About The Author-- Dr. Proactive, Randy Gilbert enjoys producing the "Inside Romance Success Show" hosted by Kevin Decker. He presents his insightful interview with Kim Marshall based upon the techniques from his book. Hear the interview for free: http://www.insidesuccessradio.com/Guests/Kim-Marshall

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