How to Blast Through Last Minute Resistance Before Sex

Ok, this has probably happened to you before...

You're at your place with a girl you've just started to date. Things are becoming hot and heavy. And you're getting all the signs that "she wants to go all the way".

But right as you're about to "close the deal" you hear these dreaded words:

"No, we shouldn't be doing this"

Once this happens, your chances of having sex tonight are quickly eliminated.

Frustrating isn't it?

You were so close, yet so far.

The funny thing is this happens all the time to guys. This problem is so prevalent that it has a name:

Last Minute Resistance

So how do you deal with last minute resistance?

Well before we get into that, let me tell what you shouldn't do:

Now the common reaction from many OTHER guys is to start begging, arguing or completely give up. What I can tell you my friend is when you do any of these three techniques you'll make the situation worse. Here's why...

When you beg for sex or get angry, you'll come across as a needy jerk. By pushing too hard, you'll ruin all the attraction and chemistry which has been built up over the past couple of hours.

Once this happens, you will NOT have sex that night.

On the other hand, when you completely give up, you might be missing out on sex. Often when a woman is giving last minute resistance, she's not actually saying no. Instead she is telling you that she's not sure if you should proceed any further.

What you should do is try to determine if you're dealing with last minute resistance or simply a woman who does not want to have sex. If she says NO, then this means no. When this happens, do yourself a favor and cease all attempts at having sex.

But if you get the feeling that she is not sure about what to do, you can try implementing the following tips for blasting through last minute resistance:

First you should take your time during foreplay. Don't rush things or push too hard. What you want to do is create a seductive atmosphere and build chemistry. Then once it comes time for sex, it'll be easy to initiate.

Now when foreplay is going on, you can reverse roles and tell her that you shouldn't be doing this. It's like you're turning her into the pursuer.

Another technique to try is this:

When she says "I don't think we should be doing this", tell her that you agree and she is trying to take advantage of you. Basically you're reframing the situation where she is seducing you.

Now as I said before, last minute resistance doesn't always mean stop. Often it's a sign that she's not comfortable with the situation that's about to happen. In essence, she needs to be reassured that you're not a creepy guy.

What you can do is halt what you're doing and start talking more. By doing this, you're making the encounter more comfortable. Then once she's a little calmer, try initiating things and see what happens.

The important thing to remember is you should act casual about any outcome of the sexual encounter. This will eliminate the needy and angry encounters that guys usually display when dealing with last minute resistance.

The final technique you can try is what's known as the "freeze-out".

This is where let her know that YOU'RE not comfortable being in bed with her.
You tell her that you're too aroused to be around her. Then you kill the seductive atmosphere by turning on the lights, moving away from her and doing something else like checking your email.

When you pull a "freeze-out", you'll purposefully ruining the pleasant state you've built. Since women thrive on pleasant sensations, you're taking something away from her. As a result, she'll be more receptive to getting back that feeling she lost.

If you implement this technique properly she might try to initiate the kissing and foreplay. Then you can continue where you were and try to escalate things again.

Last minute resistance is something that happens to all of us. If you can implement the techniques I described before, you'll be able to quickly deal with it and progress to having sex.

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